Divorce E-Newsletter

As a service to our clients, The Law and Mediation Office of Linda F. Spiegel and Divorce Magazine are pleased to provide you with this monthly e-newsletter and hope that the information and articles contained within are helpful and supportive.

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February 2017
There are consequences you need to first consider before deciding to end your marriage.

Disengaging or removing yourself from conflict is the best measure against ongoing future conflict.

Bankruptcy and divorce are chances for a fresh start for you, your ex, and your families. By knowing aspects of the two, you can make informed decisions and come out stronger than ever.

January 2017
Divorce attorneys and judges are helping people at the worst times in their lives. A calm guiding hand and leadership from a judge can do wonders to help people in these situations.

Here are some of the many services a divorce lawyer can offer you.

To truly know your situation and your needs, it is important to dig deep. Here are 10 questions to ask yourself as you begin to move into the divorce process.

It is easy to slip into negativity during and after divorce. Dwelling on what is not working out can blind you to what is going right in your life.

December 2016
1. Divorce Process: The Role of Your Divorce Team
When you’re ready to build your divorce team, be sure to include the professionals that have been trained in equitable and fair divorce practices.

You don’t have control over your ex’s gift purchases, but you can control what you do — and the new memories you create for yourself and your kids.

Second-guessing this decision is unproductive. Problem-solving your present, practicing gratitude, and focusing on your current goals is where it’s at.

This abuse is cloaked in false “protectiveness,” a form of bullying, and a precursor to domestic violence. Financial abuse leaves no bruises, but it really, really hurts.

November 2016
What is parallel co-parenting and how can it work for you?

Did you know there are four types of alimony? Learn what they are here.

Pave the way to feeling in charge of your destiny; take control of simple aspects of your life.

Ensure your future is protected in case of divorce; here are 10 reasons to sign a prenup.

October 2016
While it is devastating to see the end of a relationship and the life you built with your ex, there are ways to bounce back from it.

Marriages are a delicate balancing act for many couples; however, when you add a personality disorder to the equation, marital issues become further exacerbated.

Hindsight is always 20/20; here are some heartbreaking regrets from 10 divorced parents.

Division of assets and debts may sound easy, but it is often not easy at all. You must watch for tax consequences when dividing property and debts during divorce.

According to a recent study, heart attack victims who get divorced are significantly more likely to experience a second heart attack.

September 2016
1. Children and Divorce:
Whether it’s scheduling extracurricular events or nightly study sessions, divorced parents must be able to communicate effectively with each other to ensure academic success for their child.

Whether you’ve just decided to tell your spouse you want a divorce or are beginning the divorce process, remember that it’s not going to be easy. Follow this guide to help you get through this transition.

Reasons for people having affairs are endless, but what are the most common causes?

Proving dissipation might be a bit difficult, but when you understand the potential impact it can make on the overall division of the remaining marital estate, it’s well worth the effort.

The most common divorce regrets are avoidable when you have the right information on how to navigate this life-changing process.

August 2016
1. Children & Divorce: What is “Birdnesting” – and Can it Work for My Family?
Can birdnesting help your family in a post-divorce situation? Find out if this innovative form of child custody and timesharing is right for your family.

2. Divorce Recovery: 4 Things to Do to Begin Moving on After Divorce
Although difficult, moving on can be rejuvenating and empowering if you take the matters into your own hands and focus on recovery and your wellbeing.

3. Divorce Recovery: 7 Ways a Single Parent Can Stay Financially Fit
Raising a child on a budget doesn’t have to be scary, but having no plan on how to stay financially fit after divorce should be!

4. Spousal Support: Percentage of Men Awarded Spousal Support Increasing
An increasing number of women are becoming the leading earners in many families, and more men are eligible to receive spousal support following a divorce.

July 2016
1. Financial Issues: The Importance of Acquiring a Financial Order
Before finalizing a divorce, it’s important to consider obtaining a financial order – which can help prevent ex-spouses from making claims in the future.

2. Divorce Recovery: 10 Steps to Recover from a Divorce
You can’t allow the end of your marriage to ruin the rest of your life. These steps can help you heal and be happy again.

3. Divorce and Annulment: Can I Divorce a Spouse Who Has a Mental Illness?
The quick answer is that legally you can end a marriage when a spouse is mentally ill. But the real question is whether or not you can give yourself permission to do so.

4. Dating after Divorce: 4 Things to Consider Before You Start Dating After Divorce
Jumping into another relationship before you’re ready can lead to more disappointments and hurt. Work on your grief and recovery first.

June 2016
1. Divorce Process: 3 Ways People Sabotage Their Divorce
Being too aggressive can ignite a lengthy legal battle between you and your spouse, which can lead to a worse outcome for both parties.

2. Considering Divorce: Why It Matters Who You Hire in Divorce and How to Get It Right
The decisions you make and divorce professionals you hire during your divorce can impact your future and your children.

3. Financial Issues: Did You Know You Can Crowdfund Your Divorce?
Though it’s an unusual approach, crowdfunding a divorce is far from the most outlandish idea out there. It might be worth exploring if you need the financial help to complete your divorce.

4. Children and Divorce: 6 Common Mistakes Divorced Parents Make
It’s easy to forget what is in a child’s best interest when parents focus on being self-righteous and getting what they feel is owed to them.

5. Coping with Divorce: 5 Ways to Help Someone Who is Getting a Divorce
What are the DOs and DONTs of lending a hand to a divorcing friend in need?

May 2016
1. Coping with Divorce: 5 Pieces of Advice for Divorcing Parents
Divorce is an emotional and stressful life event that nobody can be fully prepared for. To lessen the negative effects of divorce on you and your children, keep these five tips in mind.

2. Financial Issues: 4 Steps to Take When Divorce is Inevitable
If you believe that your marriage is on the rocks, or that your spouse is planning a divorce, it is essential to have a plan to protect yourself and make sure your family and your future will be secure.

3. The Divorce Process: Facebook and Divorce: What You Need to Know
In courts throughout the country, judges are taking people’s social media accounts and postings into consideration as evidence during divorce.

4. Children and Divorce: 9 Tips for Helping Your Kids Get through Your Divorce
There is nothing more important than your kids during and after a divorce. Everything you do, strive for, and settle on during the divorce should be in your kid’s best interest.

5. Relationship Issues: 4 Ways to Protect Your Marriage from Divorce
Whether you’re happily married or starting to consider separation, there are steps you can take to safeguard your marriage against divorce.

April 2016
1. Coping with Divorce: 5 Pieces of Advice for Divorcing Parents
Divorce is an emotional and stressful life event that nobody can be fully prepared for. To lessen the negative effects of divorce on you and your children, keep these five tips in mind.

2. Financial Issues: 4 Steps to Take When Divorce is Inevitable
If you believe that your marriage is on the rocks, or that your spouse is planning a divorce, it is essential to have a plan to protect yourself and make sure your family and your future will be secure.

3. The Divorce Process: Facebook and Divorce: What You Need to Know
In courts throughout the country, judges are taking people’s social media accounts and postings into consideration as evidence during divorce.

4. Children and Divorce: 9 Tips for Helping Your Kids Get through Your Divorce
There is nothing more important than your kids during and after a divorce. Everything you do, strive for, and settle on during the divorce should be in your kid’s best interest.

5. Relationship Issues: 4 Ways to Protect Your Marriage from Divorce
Whether you’re happily married or starting to consider separation, there are steps you can take to safeguard your marriage against divorce

February 2016
1. Divorce Process: Video: 10 Issues to Discuss with Your Family Lawyer
Discuss these issues at your initial consultation before deciding to go ahead with the divorce process.

2. Property Division: Who Gets to Keep the Pets in a Divorce?
Flexibility and creativity are among the tools you’ll need to resolve who keeps your furry loved ones.

3. Child Custody: Don’t Make These 4 Mistakes During a Custody Battle
Don’t risk being classified as unfit or neglectful during your custody dispute by making these simple – and avoidable – mistakes.

4. Financial Issues: 5 Ways to Minimize Divorce Costs
Organize, communicate, disclose, investigate, and be reasonable.

5. Divorce Recovery: Taking a Chance on Love a Second Time
If you allow yourself to be both brave and vulnerable, you just might find that love can be lovelier the second time around.

January 2016
1. Financial Issues: Video: Spousal Support (Alimony) and Taxes
Learn how taxes could affect the spousal support (alimony) you’ll be paying or receiving.

2. Recovery: 7 Ways to Make Room for Spiritual Healing after Divorce
For many people, the decision to divorce brings up feelings of guilt, shame, and a sense of failure. Here’s how to start the healing process.

3. Children and Divorce: 5 Tips for Harmonious Nesting
Nesting allows children to stay in the family home while both parents take turns living with them. Although not a common arrangement, there are ways co-parents can make the most out of this transition time.

4. Coping with Divorce: 3 Tips on Coping with Divorce after Decades of Marriage
All divorces are emotionally painful. However, when you have been married for decades, there is a long shared history that can be particularly painful to lose.

5. Relationships and Dating: Tone of Voice Can Predict Marital Success
How you say it, not just what you say, can impact your marriage.

December 2015
1. Financial Issues: Video: How To Find a Divorce Financial Professional
How can a financial professional help you during your divorce, and what are some of the initial questions you should be asking?

2. Co-Parenting after Divorce: 5 Tips for Keeping Your Emotional Thermometer Cool During the Holidays
As you plan for the holidays, avoid any situation where there is a potential for tension and conflict in front of the children.

3. Children and Divorce: How to Create a Parenting Plan That Fits Your Family
Take charge of the process, figure out what your kids need, and put it into action.

4. Legal Issues: What Happens When One Parent Wants to Move Away with the Children?
The question is not whether the parent is permitted to move, but rather what custody arrangement would be in the best interest of the child.

5. Relationships and Dating: Dating after Divorce? Make Sure You Are Ready!
Just because your marriage failed, it doesn’t mean you are sentenced to a life of being single.

November 2015
1. The Divorce Process: Watch: 10 Tips on How to Choose a Divorce Lawyer
Choose the right divorce lawyer to suit your unique needs.

2. Coping With Divorce: 3 Tips for Surviving the Holidays when Your Parents Divorce
Whether you’re at the beginning of your adult parents’ divorce experience, or somewhere in the middle of the process, here are tips to help you make it through the holidays.

3. Financial Issues: Determining Your Post-Divorce Expenses
Knowing your lifestyle and estimating post-divorce expenses frequently turns out to be one of the most difficult things to do during a separation.

4. Children and Divorce: What’s the Difference Between Co-Parenting and Parallel Parenting?
Guidelines and tips for helping kids to live happily in two homes.

5. Divorce Recovery: Creating the New You After Divorce
The “New You” embodies cherished elements of your pre-divorce self with aspects of your deliberately chosen post-divorce persona.

October 2015
1. Divorce News: Study: The Effects of Divorce on Aging
Researchers have found that the stress of divorce could speed up the aging process and even make divorcees more prone to developing serious illnesses.

2. Financial Issues: Watch: How Spousal Support (Alimony) Works
This video will help you understand how spousal support, also known as alimony or maintenance, works.

3. Children and Divorce: 5 Rules for Introducing a New Partner to Your Kids
Introducing your kids to a new love too soon might complicate, delay, or damage the healing process.

4. Relationships and Dating: Are you in a Toxic Relationship?
You’ve ended your marriage and you’ve moved out of state. How do you file for divorce?

5. Divorce Recovery: The 5 Stages of Divorce Recovery
Where are you in the recovery process?

September 2015
1. Divorce News: Women More Likely to Initiate Divorce than Men: Study
A new study suggests that women are more likely to initiate divorce than men in heterosexual marriages.

2. Children and Divorce:
10 Back-to-School Tips for Families After a Recent Separation or Divorce

Advice to help your children answer questions from schoolmates – and how to know when to seek professional help for your child.

3. Financial Issues: Video: Understanding Your Income During Divorce
The first step to gaining control of your finances – and life – during divorce is to prepare a detailed, up-to-date budget.

4. Divorce Recovery: 6 Steps To Forgiving Your Former Spouse for Good
Achieve forgiveness and go from feeling like a victim to becoming a more empowered person.

5. Infidelity: The Reality of Virtual Infidelity
The popularity of social media has made virtual infidelity more accessible than ever – and it has altered the nature of what constitutes cheating.

August 2015
1. Divorce News: Study: Marrying Before Age 32 May Reduce Risk of Divorce
If you married after age 32, you’re more likely to divorce than those who married in their late 20s.

2. Divorce Process: Watch: 15 Questions to Ask Before Hiring a Divorce Lawyer
These questions will help to ensure that you choose the right lawyer to represent you.

3. Children and Divorce: Top 10 Resources to Learn About Parental Alienation
The more you educate yourself about parental alienation, the more equipped you’ll be to beat it.

4. Legal Issues: Where Do You File for Divorce When Living in Different States?
You’ve ended your marriage and you’ve moved out of state. How do you file for divorce?

5. Financial Issues: Post Divorce Insurance
Protect yourself when your divorce settlement involves future payments of any type.

July 2015
1. Divorce News: Gallup Poll: Moral Acceptance of Divorce on the Rise
According to the most recent Gallup poll, moral acceptance of divorce by Americans has increased by 12%.

2. Divorce Process: Ways to Divorce: Choose the Right One for You
One of the first decisions you’ll need to make is how to proceed with your divorce; the value of making the right decision cannot be overstated.

3. Children and Divorce: 7 Tips to Help Your Teenager Cope with Divorce
Expressing compassion and understanding to your teen can go a long way to smooth over the rough patches in a divorced family.

4. Coping With Divorce: Separation and Divorce Means You Are No Longer a Married Couple
How to transition from living and acting as a married couple to being detached from one another legally (and in every other way).

5. Divorce Recovery: A Blueprint for Your Future Self: Advice for Overcoming the Trauma of Divorce
Overcoming the trauma of divorce by reclaiming your life means imagining and then creating the future you desire.

June 2015
1. Divorce News: Study: Social Media is the New Marriage Minefield
Nearly 50% of participants in a recent survey admit to checking their partner’s Facebook account – and 15% indicate they had contemplated divorce as a result.

2. Divorce Process: Mediation for Self-Preservation
When your family breaks up, it feels like your very survival is threatened. Mediation merges all of the aspects of repairing a broken family – including the legal, financial, and emotional facets.

3. Financial Issues: 7 Key Factors When Negotiating Your Divorce Settlement
Don’t make these cognitive and emotional mistakes with your investments.

4. Financial Issues: 10 Tips for a Truce on Your Child’s Graduation Day
If your child will be graduating this spring, you both owe it to him/her to suspend any lingering divorce hostilities before, during, and after the ceremony. Here’s how.

5. Divorce Recovery: 5 Dating Tips for Infidelity Survivors
It’s hard to trust someone with your heart after being betrayed; the good news is that most infidelity survivors eventually find love again.

May 2015
1. Divorce News: Study: Divorce Linked to Higher Risk of Heart Attack
New research suggests that divorced men and women are more likely to have a heart attack than their married counterparts.

2. Health & Well-Being: Do the Next Right Thing
The most effective method of rising out of a depressed state is retrieving control of your life by taking the right action.

3. Financial Issues: 6 Tips for Overcoming Psychological Mistakes when Managing Your Money
Don’t make these cognitive and emotional mistakes with your investments.

4. Financial Issues: Understanding the Financial Impact of Divorce
The only ways to increase your cash flow are to increase your income, cut your expenses, or some combination of the two. Here’s how to find the money to fuel your dreams.

5. Children and Divorce: Parental Alienation – A Corrosive Legacy
A judge gives tips on what you can do about parental alienation and change its corrosive legacy.

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